They say that a man is only as good as the woman behind him! I agree with this to an extent, my life would have been so different if I had made one or two right choices; and with the right females I probably would not have had as much stress and possibly would not be paying for it now! I believe it takes two to tango; it is not necessarily that a female makes a man but a female and male make and save each other, it has to be a combined effort where they both push together, if one of these individuals wants or needs something else then it is quite simply a recipe for disaster.
There will always be separate interests (the spice) of the relationship and maybe even quirkiness but on foundational things both must be in rhythm! First Love (Karen Elliot) (Solid)
Summary: This was the biggest regret of my life in the love stakes; this should have been my first and last love! We both understood each other, we were both hard working she was as solid as a rock and we both depended on each other! I know that if things had not changed my life would have been a lot more solid, she was and always will be the concrete that pulled and kept us both together! I was just stupid and messed it up all by myself! I will always hold a candle for Karen, love for us was a two way street.
Second Love (Carole Moorehouse) (Flighty)
Summary: Carole was a female I met on the rebound from Karen it was my friend Bill Durston that introduced us and I grew to love her and we subsequently got married, had two children, and although I loved and respected her Carole always seemed to be pining for something else, she tried to change me and the way I thought and my personal interests were of little consequence to her, it was a rough ride and a constant fight with an interfering mother in-law but the bottom line is she was the mother to my two children and I am sorry that things did not work out between us, you never really let me in and let me love you.
Third Love ( Thereze Gough) (Simply Wild)
Summary: this truly was a bolt out of the blue and just as fierce, Thereze was quite simply wild, I was on the rebound again from Carole, I was not interested in very much any more and was loosing my business because of the stress, it was not a good formula for me and Thereze, add to that drinking problems and volatile sexual energy and it was something I will never ever forget.
Thereze was half my age, but we were so compatible it was very scary Thereze thought me how to love again although quite aggressive I loved her to pieces but within doing that we saw each other very raw, I can only liken this romance to nuttier than a volcano or whirlwind but without doubt I loved her! I would not have missed this one for anything.
How do you define love? What exactly is it that binds us to another human being, why do we feel such great loss when we have to Part Company? I am on a personal mission on this to understand my loves of my life encapsulated.
I do know that my last love (Thereze) was really going to be my last; I decided (at some point) it just all hurts too much and I decided at the ripe age of 40 that I could not love again! It was not something I decided outright and it just was a subconscious decision I suppose, and I never did change this part of my life again.
The ladies below epitomise and encapsulate my love life and absorbed at least 20 years of it in combination, I loved each and every one of them for different reasons and I hope to show them respect and thank them most of all for being part of my life!